Day 9 - Love Makes Good impressions...

.... Greet one another with a kiss of love .. 1Peter 5:14

When I first started reading this chapter I thought.. FINALLY and easy day..something that comes natural to me.... then I kept on reading........ OK........not as easy as I thought. I think back to all the times I was mad at my husband, saw his car pull up in the driveway and on purpose went to the bedroom so I wouldn't have to see him when he first came in the door. HOW RUDE that is! As I read, I thought back to the days when he and I first met, how I would wait by the door for him to come over, and be so sad when it was time for him to go. I remember the anticipation of waiting and then the excitement when he got there... I still have those same butterflies when I see him come home from work to this day - but when I am mad at him I don't treat him like I do.

The chapter spoke of the prodigal son, and how the father saw his son from a long distance and ran to him and embraced him and kissed him, even though the son had done wrong. That is what I need to do for my husband! Make him feel as though he has self worth! Make him feel welcome and loved in our home.

My love dare is to greet my husband with the love and enthusiasm that I feel for him, even when I am mad at him! Because I do love my husband and a greeting and the way I speak to him is so important in making him feel loved.

Day 8 - love is not jealous

When I saw the title to this chapter I thought to myself oh brother... this is where my heart needs the most work. But I was surprised as to what it really spoke about -- something I have never really considered jealousy I do almost daily. Jealousy also comes in the form of selfishness. Such as Brandon getting to do things that I dont get to do - go places and do things I am not invited to do. I didnt realize that was a form of jealousy that I need to remove from my heart. I have more work in this area than I orginally thought! On a positive note, I get to BURN my negative list that I created of my husband!!! Thank goodness I didnt have to share that dark side of my heart with him! I vow to be my husbands biggest cheerleader and fan.

Love believes the best

WOW.. what an amazing chapter. For my love dare I was asked to make two lists... one write all the possitive things about my spouse and one list of all the negative things. PLEASE someone out there tell me that your negative list was as long as mine! I am starting to feel BAD about that. I have finally had a shift in my thinking! Which I am totally thanking God for. I had a problem with judging my husband... now I am looking within. I won't list any of the bad things but I will make a short list off all the good aspects of my husband.
1. He is a very good listener
2. He is a hard worker
3. He has a kind heart
4. He puts others before himself
5. He is a great step dad to my son
6. He is very loving towards me when I am angry or hurt
7. He is thoughtful
8. He is my best friend!

Love is not irritable...

I learned from this chapter something that I havent ever thought of before...Selfishness wears many hats such as lust, bitterness, greed and pride. I also learned that I need to learn to balance my life better so that the stresses of life do not cause me to get irritable. Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. Matthew 12:34. The book asks me to make a list on areas where I need to add margin to my schedule. I suppose I could get up earlier..thats going to be hard for me! I could give up cubscouts too. That is a thing that takes ALOT of my time. Something I will seriously need to think about.

Love is not Rude...

On this excerise I was to ask my husband 3 things that irriate him that I do.... without attacking him or justifying my behavior.... so I decided to wait unitl the most opportune time. We get ready for bed and are watching TV and discussing all the events of the day and I turn to him so loveingly and say...

Me - You know I am reading that book Love Dare
Him - O Brother!
Me - Well, I am needing to know 3 things that I do that Irritate you.
Him - why dont you tell me 3 things that irritate you..
Me - Because I am working on myself not you - silly.
Him- Well, in that case...
1. Your DRIVING
2. The way you hit your snooze 5 times before getting out of bed
3. and did I mention YOUR DRIVING...

-- Back to re-read Chapter one!

Love is not selfish.. and Love is thoughtful..

I purchased a card, a cinn. roll and a rose and left it on my husbands desk at work while he wasnt there. It was a nice suprise for him when he got back from doing all his running around for his boss.

I am learning through these excersises that maybe I am not doing exactly what I THOUGHT I was doing for my husband. I am starting to see within myself and how I am expecting him to do things and be a certain way for me, but I am not returning that for him.

Day one - DO over... Love is patient

Holding my tounge hasnt been my best quality -- as I have gotten older I have seen that not everyone wants or needs my opinion as I orginally felt they did as when I was younger. This holds true to my husband. Today is a "trying" time between the two of us, and I feel that the way to best handle a few things is to be patient and QUIET! Listening is not easy when you want to blurt out WHATEVER you MORON! But I didnt do that today... Instead I shut my mouth and listened... love is patient is what I kept saying in my head... and patience is HARD at times. A practice I need more of!

DO OVER..

I have failed at this love dare terribly... so I am calling a DO OVER.. starting tomorrow I am starting completely over.